overt, explicit, and naked.

You are what you do, you are what you say, you are what you eat, and you are what they see. 

I believe in the behavioral approach of psychology at times. It gives me the most simplistic way to perceive the world, or even ourselves with justice and ample evidence. Behavioral approach simply describes who we are when we start to get confused with the definition of “ourselves.” Our sense of reality is consistently mixed with others’ senses of reality and behavioral approach helps us see our real values whenever this mixture forms. It teaches us to be aware of our behaviors because they are what define us. Behavioral approach also encourages us to use the heuristic rule of understanding which makes the complicated unsophisticated. 

We don’t know who we are in many circumstances. We just go with the flow to eradicate our sense of responsibility or burden of constant self-identification. We fail to be ourselves when others are around and society judges us. There are times in everyone’s life when he or she falls to the trap of social systems. People, regardless of their ages and genders, have the penchant to conform to their environments to gain the most out of something. They could get gold and silver if they do so but they tend to forget that gold and silver, like other forms of extraterrestrial wealth, are episodic. Nothing lasts forever. Even ourselves. 

So if ourselves- the bodies, behaviors, and thoughts of ours do not last forever, some might ask, why bother to be ourselves? The answer is simple. We are satisfied to be ourselves. Everything we do, we earn personal gratification from it. Any development, personal or professional, that is driven by our own need to feel accomplished, would be much more appreciated by us. 

Every room in our heart should belong to us. If someone tries to occupy an inch of our hearts for their enjoyment and benefits, we have to make sure they pay for the cost. The same thing goes to us when we make someone put some efforts to help us. Everything is about reciprocity. That’s how the world works. What we do, we get back. As I say above, we are what we do. If we are mean to others, the others would be mean to us back. Life is fair after all. Ok, I might be influenced by just world phenomenon, but I like to remind others that people don’t see what they don’t see. Thus, don’t expect them to see through you if don’t show them who you really are. Overt behaviors rule the world.